How To Make Him Propose

Let me guess?

You have been with your boyfriend for a long time (at least 18 months and probably longer!)

You love him and he loves you. You have spoken about your future together and you both agree that you see it with you both together.

You so badly want to get married and want him to propose.

However despite this and despite the subtle and not so subtle hints you have been giving him he has still not proposed to you.

And time is pushing on. I mean how much longer can you carry on waiting? After all you want to start preparing for married life and a family and all your friends are getting married around you......and your mum just can't stop nagging you!

It is normally at this point that most girls get desperate. They so much want to get engaged that they can only think of one way to do it. And that is by deploying the nuclear weapon of relationships; the dreaded ultimatum.

Girls in long term relationships often figure that their man loves them....and that love alone will see them through this. So by deploying the nuclear weapon ultimatum of "marry me or dump me" their man will definitely bend the knee.

The thing is this isn't necessarily right. By deploying this tactic you may in fact be committing relationship suicide.

Now it is totally understandable why a woman would want to give such an ultimatum. After all waiting two or more years for a proposal can do that to most people!

The thing is when I call the ultimatum the "nuclear weapon of relationship politics" I am not joking.

An ultimatum is just another word for a "threat". And when a woman threatens a man and imposes on them the "with me or without me" pressure then most times the relationship will end.

Therefore if you are thinking about deploying "the ultimatum" to force your boyfriend's hand then only do it if you are fully aware of the potential consequences.

The chances are that if you give him the love me or leave me talk then you may well end up watching him pack his bags as he

So if you are prepared to confront this truth then please go ahead and issue the ultimatum.

However if you are in a long term relationship and you would rather have your boyfriend actually WANT to marry you without you being all pushy then I suggest you check out the Get Married Club to see another way to do it without using threats or potentially risky ultimatums.